Contact with Birth Families
Experts advise that biological and adoptive parents must remember that open adoption is about meeting the needs of children, not adults. While openness does not simply wipe away the feelings of grief, fear, or insecurity that can swirl around an adoptive placement, maintaining biological connections are a proven long term benefit of the child.
Maintaining Siblings Relationships
Professional literature repeatedly affirms the importance of the sibling bond. It is the longest lasting relationship most people ever have. Brothers and sisters share common experiences and history.
Managing Visits with Family
Visits are not always easy for children, their birth parents or their foster or adoptive parents but they are essential to build relationships and heal past traumas. While all parents may be overwhelmed by their mixed feelings of pleasure, awkwardness, anger and defensiveness as well as extreme sadness, visits aren’t about what the adults need or what. Visits are for the children’s needs.
Parenting Children with Incarcerated Parents
The disruption of family relationships when parents are incarcerated can have a serious impact on children and youth, with consequences sometimes including temporary or permanent removal from the home. People can make bad choices and still love their children. Often children still love their parents despite the poor choices made.
Adoption Searches and Reunions
We now know that it is natural and very common for an adoptee or youth in foster care to want to know more about their personal history and original family. Nowadays, with commercial DNA testing, social media and New York about to restore the adult adoptees access,to their original birth certificates, practical searching advice and emotional reunion preparation is key.
More Information and Resources:
- Parent-Child Visits: Managing the Challenges, Reaping the Rewards
- Facilitating Contact by Assessing Family Strengths
- Visiting Practice Points and Creative Visiting Plans
- Helping Children with Family Connections
- Visit Coaching: Meeting Children’s Needs
- Join the New York Adoption Information Registry
- Top Ten Ethical Considerations In Open Adoption Practice
- Understanding Birth Parents: Grief and Open Adoption
- Facilitated Openness Can Benefit Children Adopted from Care
- The Open Adoption Question
- Talking to Kids About Open Adoption
- Openness – A Personal Decision?
- Exploring Your Family’s Culture
- Deciding to Allow Children Contact with his or her Siblings
- New York State Statute & Regulation on Sibling Placement
- Overcoming Barriers to Keeping Siblings Together
- National Center Child Welfare Excellence; Sibling Resources and Links
- Honoring and Maintaining Sibling Connections
- Visitation: Through the Eyes of a Child
- New York State OCFS White Paper on Siblings in Foster Care and Adoptive Placement
- Children with Incarcerated Parents: Bill of Rights
- 10 Eye-Opening Facts About Criminal Justice
- Engaging Incarcerated Parents
- Pen Pals; Parenting from Prison
- Out of Prison and Into My Life
- Sesame Street Toolkit: Coping With Incarceration
- Coordinating Council on Children with Incarcerated Parents (CCCwIP)
- The Osborne Association’s Resources on Children of Incarcerated Parents
- Adoption and Foster Care Records in New York State